Is Bitching The New Female Bonding…

Do you have a female friend who seems to only connect when they’re moaning about how bad their life is?  It could be killing your friendship.

A few years ago, I became super tight with a woman at work.  We spoke every day, spent nearly every weekend together and pretty much shared everything.  It was peachy except for one thing.  When we were together, all we did was complain.  We clung on to each other, not for support, more for the comfort of commiseration.  A problem shared is a problem halved,  or is it?

Bonding over negatives may be one way to connect, but it sure isn’t healthy.  Excessively talking about problems with fellow drama queens is so common in fact that researchers have given it a name: “co-rumination” and it can have some really nasty consequences.

Studies done by the University of Missouri-Columbia have found that bitching about life only exacerbates problems, and contributes to anxiety and depression.  Also being this immersed in conversations with female friends about what you see as missing in your life can stunt other relationships, career aspirations and self-confidence.

Co-rumination it appears is often centered on things like boyfriend trouble, office politics, and frequently body issues like being overweight.  And there is no denying that when women get together, the conversation degenerates into talking about who’s skimpy shorts don’t fit anymore.  In some circles, “fat chat” is not only talk it’s a requirement.

Women are likely to engage in behavior that mirrors their other female friends. It’s a way of fitting in and being accepted.  And in these situations, it’s misery that becomes the bonding experience.  It’s also how women have been taught to interact. We have been raised to commiserate over negatives and to be wary of women who look good and feel great about themselves.  She somehow is the enemy and represents competition not friendship material.

More often than not, a friendship that is built on drama or negativity is simply not sustainable – the connection may only last for as long as both friends are willing to play at being victims in their lives.  Say, if female friends commiserate over being overweight, it will soothe them and make them feel that they are in it together, but once one of them drops five kilos or so, it becomes another story.  Jealousy, and a sense of betrayal are some of the feelings that can surface when a friend is seen as no longer being a part of the “suffering crowd.”

No-one should ever turn their back on a friend in need.  Expressing hurt, fear, anger, disappointment is natural and necessary at times.  However, when there is little else going on in this relationship, then there is a problem.

There are some very simple steps that counter negative talk and promote healthy friendships -

• Redirect the conversation and keep the mood light and positive.  Compliment your friends.
• Focus on yourself and your own health rather than comparing yourself and your life to that of your friends.
• Encourage your friends to make healthier life choices.
• Say something positive about yourself and your friends instead of saying something negative.

Don’t waste time and energy on negativity. Have realistic standards and positive attitudes towards yourself and get out there and enjoy your life!

Warmly,

Michelle Munnich

Why Is Pregnancy Miracle The Best Selling Infertility Cure Book In Internet History, With Thousands Of Satisfied (And Now Proud Mothers) Women In 127 Countries Worldwide?

Pregnancy Miracle is the #1 best selling infertility Cure ebook in the history of the Internet for a reason…

Thousands of women of almost every age have completely reversed any infertility issues they had and got pregnant naturally, without drugs, risky surgery or “magic potions” simply by using the clinically proven, scientifically-accurate step by step method found inside this amazing Pregnancy guidebook.

Lisa Olson, a certified nutritionist, health consultant and author has not just pumped out yet another “pregnancy program” into an already over-saturated market. Lisa’s Pregnancy Miracle can be more accurately described as an “Pregnancy Bible.” It is quite simply one of the most comprehensive, complete, and precise guides to infertility freedom you will ever read. What makes it so much different than other pregnancy publications on the market?

Well first of all, it’s not just a “infertility help” program, it’s an infertility cure program. This may seem like semantics or wordplay at first, but once you’ve read just the first chapters, there will be no doubt in your mind that pursuing “help with your pregnancy” is not only the wrong goal, it may be the reason that you’ve failed to get pregnant until now. Pregnancy Miracle shows you exactly why you should fix the internal problem that’s hindering your chances of getting pregnant and then goes on to show you exactly how to do it.

Secondly, what makes Pregnancy Miracle different is the amount of attention that is paid to each and every element required to get pregnant the natural way. Pregnancy Miracle not only thoroughly discusses the lies, myths and fallacies surrounding a very confusing subject, it is simply the most detailed book about pregnancy and infertility, Chinese Medicine and holistic health ever written.

The Pregnancy Miracle book is quite extensive (250 pages of rock solid content) which focuses on 100% natural method for getting pregnant quickly. That means there aren’t recommendations for harsh prescription drugs or surgeries with nasty side effects. In Pregnancy Miracle core formula section (The 3 step system) – Nothing is held back. In this section, Lisa gives a detailed overview of each step, and then dives into the specifics in a perfect chronological order. There are also outstanding charts and checklists which make it very easy to know where you are at in the program and follow it.

Because the Pregnancy Miracle program is not a quick fix ‘fairy tale’ cure but a complete holistic solution aimed at eliminating the root cause of fertility problems(regardless of your age) and ensure your will get pregnant quickly, it does take work and persistence to complete. “The dictionary is the only place success comes before work” says Lisa, as she emphasizes the “no quick fix” philosophy behind the entire book.

If there is any drawback to the Pregnancy Miracle ebook, it’s that it contains so much information, that some readers may find it a bit overwhelming. Those who are looking for a quick start type of pregnancy program, might be a bit intimated at first. The good part however, is that even these types of readers can feel confident and assured that it will be worth the effort because this will literally be the last book they ever have to buy on the subject.

Who will benefit most from Pregnancy Miracle?

In the broadest sense, anyone and everyone who wants to get pregnant naturally and regain their natural inner balance will benefit from Pregnancy Miracle. This ebook is honestly for everyone. Even women without fertility issues. This is a total health rejuvenation program better than 98% of the nutrition and alternative health books on the market. In fact, the advice in this ebook is guaranteed to help you with any other health condition you might have, especially if you suffer from hormonal disorders, digestive problems, insulin related disorders, allergies and acne.

In terms of graphic design, Pregnancy Miracle is a clean and professionally formatted PDF e-book. It is well organized and ideal for printing and reading in the comfort of your own home.

This impressive and unique publication has changed many lives and the hundreds of inspiring testimonials and success stories are found on the Pregnancy Miracle website archives as proof.

The Bottom line?

Anyone looking for a quick fix solution to getting pregnant, anyone looking to be told fairy-tales, and anyone looking for a “magic bullet”, pills, over the counters, ‘get pregnant in 2 weeks’ hyped up programs should not waste his or her time with Pregnancy Miracle.

On the other hand, anyone searching for the truth about pregnancy, fertility issues and alternative health and who is ready and willing to put in some work and make the lifestyle changes necessary to get pregnant fast and give birth to healthy children, will find Pregnancy Miracle to be one of the best investments they ever made in their lives. Click here to learn more about Lisa Olson’s Pregnancy Miracle

The Secret to The Secret

Today I’d like to share a beautiful poem about allowing yourself to fulfill your potential – letting your light shine so that others can too.

Press play to watch this video by Marianne Williamson.

Warmly,

Michelle Munnich,

Spiritual Entrepreneur.

7 Helpful Secrets For Easily Keeping the Magic of Love Alive in Your Relationship

Whether you are wanting to attract a boyfriend or girlfriend, or are already in a committed relationship, there are some very simple tenets for having a satisfying love relationship.

Being realistic about what you want in a potential partner or in your present partner is essential. Each person is unique and a love relationship is a blending of two people, not a band-aid for trying to patch up each others shortcomings.

There is one tough fact about love relationships that one must bear in mind – They are unconditional. This simply means that you are the only person who is going to make yourself happy. Expecting that your girlfriend/boyfriend or husband/wife is going to fill all your emotional needs is a rather far fetched ideal and will not stand up in real life.

The best relationships are ones that build a deep connection between you both and where you are both accepted as the unique individuals that you are. And remember that love relationships are a work in progress!

Here are some things that you can do to keep the passion alive in your love relationship:

- Be kind to each other. Harshness and thoughtlessness undermine the relationship.
- Do not expect your partner to be perfect. You’re not.
- Laugh together.
- Surprise each other.
- Experience new things together for growth and bonding.
- Be playful.
- Strive to be the person you would want for a partner.

Keep the magic alive with these simple tips and you’ll see that your girlfriend/boyfriend or husband/wife only has eyes for you.

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Warmly,

Michelle Munnich

Spiritual Entrepreneur.